in a conversation about race with some who identifies as a person of colour and with whom I don't have an established relationship, I really appreciate articulate anger and a calculated lack of civility. I feel slightly safer in a difficult conversation with someone who makes me demonstrate my good faith before they'll share their time and experience and knowledge with me, because it means they consider it valuable. I feel happier knowing that they are aware that they have the right to cease to share it with me if I fuck up, and the confidence to exercise that right. I feel glad that they may also do me the favour of telling me if I fuck-up, and give me an opportunity to apologise, even though, again, there's no burden on them to do so - but I know they know that.

Every time I see someone say, "But you'll convert more PEOPLE LIKE ME to your cause if you play nicely," I think, golly, don't you think PEOPLE LIKE YOU important?